By Nea Joy
An email from a troubled young man asked, “Is Law of Attraction not working for me because I’m gay?” He went on to say that his life was “doomed no matter what” because of the “sinful” nature of his sexuality. He even mentioned that few of his gay and lesbian associates have successful relationships. My answer to him was that the law of attraction works the same for everyone and that he is only doomed for as long as his thoughts are dooming him.
This young man was, unintentionally of course, resisting the joyful life that is his birthright. He was creating an awful existence for himself. Why? Because he didn’t know any better. Whole groups of people, not just homosexuals, respond to the negative messages of parents, teachers, religious leaders, and society by internalizing what they have been taught. In other words, the things that they’ve been told become their dominant thoughts (or beliefs). And the Law of Attraction will always send thoughts and circumstances that are a vibrational match to your beliefs.
At a workshop in 1999, Abraham Hicks said “there is nothing that you can do that is worse for yourself, than to do something that you believe is inappropriate. And so, get clear and happy about whichever choice you make because it is your contradiction that causes the majority of the contradiction in vibration.” This statement couldn’t be more perfect.
If you spend decades listening as people that you love or respect tell you that you are bad, evil, wrong, and on a path to hell, you may begin to feel that you are bad, evil, wrong, and on a path to hell. And when you begin to believe such things, you’ll experience quite a hellish existence on this Earth. Harboring negative beliefs about yourself is damaging to you and to anyone who gets involved in a relationship with you.
With this understanding, it is clear why the letter-writer notices so many unhappy gay and lesbian relationships. People who believe that their sexuality is “sinful” and their relationships are wrong will have a very hard time creating a stable, joyful bond with their partner. The law of attraction works in such a way that you experience exactly what you allow yourself to believe.
I’d like to offer a few words of advice to gays, lesbians, and anyone else who is struggling with living outside of the expectations of others.
Come to terms with who you are.
When you learn that you are a magnificent Being whose existence is important to the expansion of this great Universe, you will stop being affected by what others say or think of you. When you realize that you are a powerful creator whose every thought is creating life experience, you will cease to doubt yourself in response to those who condemn you. When you learn to love yourself as Source (or God) loves you, you will benefit from the positive energy that flows within rather than withering from the negative words of those who don’t understand you.
Consider a new belief system.
Although you may have been taught under a certain religious modality, you are free to choose what you will believe. If you can’t bring yourself to break the family religious tradition, at least learn to benefit from the positive parts of that faith while leaving the negative, fire and brimstone teachings for those who want to attract such monstrosities in their lives.
Your parents, teachers, pastors, and priests are mostly well-intentioned, but they cannot properly make choices for you. You are born with an innate sense of your own truth. And if honoring what you feel to be true for you does not line up with the belief system under which you’ve been taught, you have a decision to make.
Will you follow your Inner Guidance toward what is right for you? Or will you do what is right for others by following their teachings even if it leads you to think so poorly of yourself that you repeatedly attract negative life experiences? The choice is yours, so choose wisely.
Be conscious of your Inner Being. You were born with the only tool that you’ll ever need for a successful life-your Inner Being. Living without conscious awareness of this powerful inner guidance is a handicap that afflicts most people who have been taught to get their guidance from others.
Whether or not you are aware of it, this spiritual you IS the larger part of who you are. And the larger part of who you are will always do two things: call you toward a joyful life and let you know when you are on track.
The problems come when you ignore your Inner Being in favor of what you hear, see, and learn in your physical world. Your emotions are your evidence of how much you are in (or out of) alignment with your Inner Being, how you are vibrating, and what the law of attraction is bringing to you.
You will enjoy positive emotion when you align with your Inner Being and the Law of Attraction will respond with manifestations of your desires. When your thoughts and actions are out of alignment with that spiritual part of you, you will feel negative emotion.
And as you offer that low vibration of unhappiness or misery, you will attract undesirable circumstances that breed even more misery. In order to tell the difference between the “voice” of your Inner Being and the subconscious trash that you’ve accumulated over your lifetime, start a spiritual growth journey.
It will take some practice to become accustomed to noticing the spiritual part of yourself if you’ve spent your life only observing what can be detected with your physical senses, but simple practices like meditation are a great start. Begin by dedicating a few minutes each day to developing your sixth sense.
Calm down! That doesn’t mean you should see “dead” people. But it does mean that you should become aware of the fact that there is much more to you than this physical body. As you become more and more aware of who you really are, you will stop looking for answers outside of yourself.
It can be difficult to know that there is something about you that is very different from others, even more-so when you’re frowned upon or judged by those that you love. But it does not serve you to be angry with those who are homophobic.
It also doesn’t serve you to fear hell, to resist what is natural for you, or to feel guilty about not following the script given to you by your society. Feelings of guilt, anger, shame, and fear have very low vibrations, thus they will hinder you from living the joyful life that is your destiny.
In order to attract a life filled with great relationships, emotional stability, financial abundance, and overwhelming internal joy, the majority of your thoughts must be of a higher vibration.
To start allowing law of attraction to manifest your ideal life,replace the negative thoughts with those of appreciation and love. Here are a few statements about these issues, written from a compassionate, appreciative, loving point of view:
- Source loves me just as I am, so I love me just as I am.
- They can’t help how they feel about gay people-they are only doing what they think is right
- My parents and my pastor simply want to pass on a tradition that they believe in-they mean well and I appreciate their intention
- Now that I feel good about myself, the Universe will send the most magnificent partner my way for a fairytale romance
- Being different is actually quite fun-I now enjoy standing out from the crowd
In the words of Joseph Campbell, “follow your bliss.” Discover yourself, love yourself, forgive yourself, and free yourself. The result will be a wonderful life transformation that defies all understanding.
Nea Joy is the founder of the life altering, Law of Attraction based self-help website Self Improvement Saga . She specializes in teaching the art of joyful living through the Universal Laws. Enhance your life today by visiting self-improvement-saga.com for powerful self improvement ideas and Law of Attraction tips.