By Janeen Clark
One of the hardest concepts to deal with when it comes to the Law of Attraction is the part about allowing. We are told that we are supposed to state our desires, believe that they are being brought to us then step aside and “allow” it to happen. But as you have probably seen for yourself this can sometimes be extremely hard to do.
It is hard to stop “wanting” something when you really want it. But the paradox here is that just the act of “wanting” infers to the Universe that you do not have it yet. Which thereby keeps it from you.
It can be so frustrating…I know!
The simple fact is: Allowing Takes Practice.
Most of us have never learned how to simply allow. Our whole lives we’ve been taught to work harder, fight harder, be better, improve ourselves, change things when we don’t like them, take some kind of action.
And while in some instances we should do some of those things, it has become such a habit that we now don’t know how to turn if off. It’s like having your fingers in one of those Chinese handcuffs toys. The harder you pull – the tighter it gets – meanwhile if we would just relax, it would release us easily.
Think about it. When was the last time you simply allowed something to simply BE without feeling you had to change it, improve it, fix it, or wish that it was something different?
So this exercise is very simple. For the next few days learn to “allow” everything in your life to simply just “be” what it is. Without anger, without criticism, without wishing it was something else.
For instance, your current job. What are your normal thoughts around it? Do you wish you were getting paid more, do your normally complain about the lack of recognition that you receive, wish you had a different boss or any of the other million things that you believe make it unsatisfactory?
What if, just for the next few days, you were to just “let the job be what it is” and not let any negative thoughts in about it?
What if when you woke up tomorrow morning you said to yourself “You know something? This job simply “is” and I don’t have to get into it any deeper than that.”
Can you feel the immense relief that comes with that? Can you feel the weight instantly fall off your shoulders that for even just the next few days you don’t need to mentally struggle with your thoughts? You don’t need to do anything, change anything, fight for anything or fix anything. For the next few days you can just let the job “be what it is” and that’s it.
The same goes for your relationships. The relationship with your parents, your siblings, your friends, your spouse, your children, your boss. For the next few days, simply allow the relationships to “simply be what they are.” Drop the inner struggle. Stop worrying about not being close enough, or understanding each other more, or having to do anything to want to fix or improve the relationship. Relieve yourself of the mental pressures you normally put on yourself about how you want things to be different and just let the relationship be “what it is.”
Do the same for your money concerns, your physical appearance, chores that need to be accomplished that you normally don’t want to do. Give yourself a mental break and simply accept that they “just are” and that is fine and there is nothing you need to do to change them.
This may be a lot harder than it sounds at first, but once you do it, you will actually feel the relief in your physical body. Your shoulders will relax, your chest will feel like it is opening a little, you will feel the tension ease from your neck.
Just let it all go.
After a few days of practicing this in all areas of your life, then you can go back and decide on what things you would like to tweak a little.
One at a time and with Universe’s help!
So now decide on the thing you would like to change the most.
Write it down as a task for Universe to take care of. Such as:
“Universe I choose to create $10,000. I know you will effortlessly bring me tons of opportunities to do this and I will easily recognize these opportunities when they are in front of me. I will feel the call to follow these leads and I know it will be effortless. Thank you.”
Then let it go and practice your “allowing” again.
Know that Universe is now working in the background bringing this to fruition and the only thing you need to do is keep your eyes open for the opportunities that are going to present themselves to you.
Remember there does not need to be a mental fight or struggle in this. As a matter of fact it is just the opposite. The more relaxed you are and the less resistance you have, the quicker it is delivered.
As for the other things going on in your life – just let them be until it is time to make a request to Universe to change them as well.
Life in not meant to be the struggle most of us make it. Allowing takes practice, but when you have mastered it, you find yourself feeling much more relaxed and satisfied. The dissatisfaction you constantly feel is simply the resistance you create to what “is”. If you learn to live without judging everything in your life as good or bad – if you learn to simply just “be” and learn to accept things just as they “simply are” you will release the resistance that has been holding you back from getting what you want.
Janeen Clark is a Spiritual Life Coach who has been teaching, studying and applying the Law of Attraction for almost 20 years. If you would like to read more Manifestation Exercises that you could put into practice right now, please visit her daily blog at The Very Happy Human.