By Kathryn Corbin
“It is fun to think on purpose and to see the results of those deliberately chosen thoughts.” – Abraham-Hicks
In a recent interview about the Law of Attraction, I was asked what I consider to be the biggest hang-ups deliberate creators experience in successfully manifesting their desires. It’s such a great question and, having had time to think about it at length, I’m listing here some of the difficulties I’ve observed with clients and others (myself included).
Clearly this is not an exhaustive list of manifesting hang-ups and certainly some of them overlap, but these are the ten most common areas of resistance I have observed along with a suggestion about how to allow in what you’re asking for.
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Focusing on what you don’t want OR focusing on the lack of what you do want. The first thing most of us learned about the Law of Attraction was to focus on what we DO want, not what we DON’T want. As simple and straightforward as that sounds, it is still the number one area of resistance for most people.
HOW TO ALLOW: How do you know if you’re focusing on what you DO want or not? You feel good when you think about it. If you don’t, you’re not.
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Expecting circumstances to make you feel good.
HOW TO ALLOW: If the way you feel is dependent on other people or external circumstances, you’re the pinball. Your circumstances will always match the way you feel, so feel good first!
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Saying “I create my own reality” when your thoughts, words, and actions say “life happens to me.”
HOW TO ALLOW: Drop all forms of blaming, complaining, judging, settling and justifying. Feeling powerless and creating your own reality are mutually exclusive. It’s one or the other and you get to choose.
“Everything that comes to you comes by the power of your thought.” – Abraham-Hicks
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Not really BELIEVING you can be, do and have what you want to be, do and have.
HOW TO ALLOW: A belief is simply a thought you keep thinking so keep thinking, affirming and declaring exactly what it is you want to believe.
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Confusion about the difference between dwelling on what-is and completely ignoring what-is. “What-is” is information you need. Ignoring what-is can be like putting a happy face sticker over the gas gauge.
HOW TO ALLOW: While it’s not helpful to DWELL on what you don’t want or don’t like, it is essential to acknowledge what-is and make peace with what-is. This is the first step to consciously moving from where you are to where you want to be.
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Not realizing there is actual work to be done. As magical as the Law of Attraction is, there is still some actual effort required to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
HOW TO ALLOW: Even though it’s the work of alignment, it still takes awareness and focus.
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Insisting that your desired result happen in a certain way or by a certain date.
HOW TO ALLOW: Stay focused on the goal with positive expectation, accepting that it may unfold differently than you expect. Stay aligned with Source and open to guidance and intuition along the way. And, oh yeah, enjoy the journey!
“When you focus your attention upon the experience you desire rather than the absence of it, you immediately begin creating what you desire.” – Abraham-Hicks
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Getting discouraged and giving up on your dream.
HOW TO ALLOW: You’re only tempted to give up on your dream when your vibration is low. Therefore, re-direct your focus to something that feels better so you can raise your vibration and lower your resistance. From that higher vibration, you’re once again a match to your desire and you can go for it with renewed enthusiasm.
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Continuing to create what you don’t want by continuing to tell the story of what you don’t want.
HOW TO ALLOW: Tell the new, improved, joyful, empowering story of what you DO want. A better-feeling story brings better-feeling results.
*AREA OF RESISTANCE: Thinking you have to work hard and do things you don’t want to do in order to attain your goal. Exerting major effort when you’re out of alignment can lead to frustration and disappointment.
HOW TO ALLOW: Remember you’re not in this alone – you’re co-creating with Source. The infinite power of the Universe is always available to support you. Align with Source and let it happen rather than trying to make it happen.
Most deliberate creators can identify with some or all of these manifesting hang-ups. And, really, the answer is always the same: Notice how you feel and choose thoughts that feel better. That’s always the “work.” Even if it does require awareness and focus to be a deliberate creator and avoid manifesting hang-ups, is there anything more valuable or more fulfilling than consciously creating your own reality?
Kathryn Corbin is a Law of Attraction Coach and the creator of Gold Star Coaching. Both her coaching practice and her three ebooks – “Manifesting from the Inside Out with Law of Attraction,” “Dining at the Cosmic Cafe, How to Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire,” and “Think and Grow Thin with the Law of Attraction” – are designed to empower you to truly live the life of your dreams. To contact Coach Kate, download a free copy of her ebook “Magical Musings on the Law of Attraction,” and subscribe to her ezine, visit Gold Star Coaching.